Families,
communities, and nations are strengthened when parents humbly and prayerfully
teach their children about the “sacred and human nature of sex, bodies, and
procreation.” Most parents and children find the transition period between
childhood and adulthood to be challenging. Loving parents want to keep their
children safe while at the same time prepare them to go out into the world.
Just as most parents do not allow their children to go wandering around in a
strange place by themselves, parents must also teach their children about the
dangers of pornography and how to have loving and respectful intimate
relationships in marriage.
N. Beth Cavanaugh posted a very
helpful and interesting article that should help many parents deal with the
growing interest of their child in their physical body and sexual activities.
It is titled “The Perfect Thing My Husband Did When He Discovered Pornography on Our Child’s Device.” She discusses how her husband found
evidence of interest on their son’s electronic device and how the father,
mother, and son handled the situation.
Cavanaugh lists the steps her
husband took in dealing with the problem of their 11-year-old son being
interested in pornography. The steps are:
(1) Take time to breathe. Do not re-act to the situation but wait until
you are prepared to act properly. (2) Find any humor in the situation that you
can and “laugh a little and pray a lot.”
(3)
“Shun shame” because no parent wants their child to feel “unlovable or unworthy
of redemption.” It also shuts down communication. (4) “Ask questions and
listen.” Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to the answers.
(5)
“Set boundaries and follow up with trust.” Agree to discuss the problem openly.
Institute rules with accountability. Allow the child to have ownership in the
rules and consequences. (6) Be sure that your child knows that your goal is to
keep him/her happy and protected.
With pornography so readily
available to our children and youth, parents must prepare themselves to act
lovingly and prayerfully in teaching the dangers of sit to their children. I
know that parents can help their children learn about sex in safe and
responsible ways, keep their family relationships strong, and thus strengthen
their families, communities, and nations.