Families, communities, and nations are stronger when parents inform themselves before granting permission to children. This statement can apply to various situations, but tonight it applies to children, teens, and young adults who seek help for gender distress.
Walt Heyer is a biological man who
submitted himself to cross-sex hormones and surgery about thirty years ago. He
lived as a woman for eight years before switching back to living as a man. He
is a public speaker and author who seeks to inform other people of the dangers cross-sex
A dirty little secret withheld from people
who seek help for gender distress is that cross-sex hormones are anabolic
steroids and addictive in the same way that daily consumption of alcohol can
lead to addiction.
Gender clinics, now
including Planned Parenthood, routinely prescribe cross-sex hormones on the
first or second visit, and they neglect to disclose that steroids are addictive
and distort one’s ability to make decisions. Steroid use makes people easy
marks for the next step: surgery, such as mastectomy and genital
reconfiguration, both of which mutilate healthy tissue.
I am a biological man
who submitted myself to cross-sex hormones and surgery and lived as a woman for
eight years. Looking back now, about 30 years later, I can testify to the
physical addictiveness of hormones and the psychological addictiveness of
appearing as the opposite sex. Addictions at their heart are destructive.
By looking at
transgender treatment protocols through the lens of addiction, we might just
find a better way to help people to wholeness.
Heyer used a definition for addiction
from The Meriam-Webster Dictionary: “a compulsive, chronic, physiological or
psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having
harmful physical, psychological, or social effects and typically causing
well-defined symptoms (such as anxiety, irritability, tremors, or nausea) upon
withdrawal or abstinence: the state of being addicted.”
The definition fits alcohol, drug,
and steroid addiction. Thirty-five years ago, Heyer recognized that he was
addicted to alcohol. At first, he denied that he had a problem. Later, he applied
“the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous” and learned to rely on Jesus Christ. He
gradually concluded that he was addicted to alcohol. His need “to consume
alcohol was compulsive, chronic, and harmful.”
In retrospect, I see the powerful
parallels between alcohol addiction and cross-sex hormone use.
Like so many aha moments, once seen, they
can’t be unseen. My eyes opened wide, and I could no longer deny that taking
cross-sex hormones was just like alcoholism, an . Cross-gender hormones are powerful steroids
that alter the brain and one’s psychological outlook.
Heyer sees this result “among young
adults who are in the early stage of pursuing gender change.” Parents contact
him for assistance in helping their children. “But unfortunately, once under
the addictive influence of cross-sex hormones, people are as unreachable as I
was when I was abusing alcohol, bent on self-destruction and deaf to any
information that stands in the way.”
Heyer saw his own addiction in his “need
to present as a woman escalated over time.” Other people who regret
transitioning “share a similar experience. Each habit-forming indulgence leads
to the next. Cross-dressing leads to injecting cross-sex hormones, which leads
to breast and genital surgery.” Heyer stated that “Cosmetic surgery itself can
be addictive, and the physical harm done is mostly irreversible.”
I have 30 years of recovery from my
ill-advised pursuit of a trans identity. I applied the same 12 steps of
Alcoholics Anonymous to the trans-addiction that erases and destroys a person
via hormones, surgery, and a new identity.
Realizing that “applying the definition
of addiction to transgenderism” will not be popular with “the enablers who benefit
financially” from gender distress, Heyer wants his message to reach the people “who
are pursuing this quixotic path with the hope of saving even one person. This
is his message:
Consider that, like me, you could be
addicted to cross-sex hormones, surgery, or even your own self-destructive
behaviors because something happened to you, such as abuse (emotional,
physical, or sexual), loss of friends or family through death or divorce, or
whatever circumstance felt traumatic.
Escaping into an addicting, alternate
identity is not the solution and can lead to harmful consequences, sadness, and
If you’re an adult feeling the tug to live
a transgender life, read my “Trans
Life Survivors” and break free from the addiction of transgender identity just
as I did. It will be the happiest moment of your life—that I can tell you.
If you are a parent of a young
person seeking to transition to the other sex, check out the sources cited
above and inform yourself. Well-informed parents can save their children from
much pain and heartache as well as strengthen their family, community, and