Families, communities, and nations are strengthened when couples keep romance alive in their marriages. Psychologist Dr. John Gottman studied marriages and once made the comment that he could tell within fifteen minutes if a couple would divorce. He made his judgment on how the couple communicates with both words and body language. He wrote a book titled The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work. In his book, he wrote that real-life romance is “kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.”
In a paper published by the Gottman Institute, Gottman said that lasting love can be created by little daily moments of connection. The following three daily habits can help marriage to last forever.
1.
Do
little and thoughtful kind things for each other.
2.
Make
time to say yes to each other every single day.
3.
Establish
relationship rituals.
The
Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work was used as a textbook for one of
my classes. I liked the principles so much that I included a copy of the book
in the wedding gift to my grandson and his new wife. I plan to do the same with
other grandchildren.
The
relationship between husband and wife forms the foundation for their family. If
the relationship is happy and strong, the family will be strong. If not, there
will be serious problems. Strong marriages and strong families can be created
by keeping romance alive in our marriages.
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